Sometimes we get stuck in negative thought loops. We know we are in one when we keep getting the same unwanted results over and over again. This is part of the flesh, or the old man referenced in Romans 7, "For what I want to do I do not do, but what I hate I do."
Sometimes we behave as though our actions "just are." In default mode, we never consider that our thought is the first domino in a series. When we start to believe new things, we change the results we get. Notice change starts on the thought line, not on the action line. We must start from the inside out. When we believe a new thought, our heart changes and from that our actions become renewed.
The better your new thought is, the easier time you will have believing it. When you completely believe it, you will create the result to reflect the belief.
I mentioned in my last post that my coach Brooke Castillo suggests 4 strategies for creating new thoughts by re-purposing old thoughts:
1. Up-leveling: Ladder your thoughts from easy to believe to more difficult. I love the example she uses with her clients who want to stop drinking. It is hard to go from the belief, "I can't stop drinking," to "I don't ever drink." When you think the second thought you are probably adding to the thought, " That is hogwash," so you don't really believe it.
When we Level Up thoughts, the process is gradual and the thoughts are more believable. Here is Brooke's example of up-leveling she uses with drinking. Notice how the thoughts build:
2. Add ons: By adding words to a current thought you can soften it, and even change it. I love John 16:33 which starts with a fact which standing alone is disheartening. "In this world you will have trouble, but (ADD-ON) take heart, I have overcome the world." The first feels heavy-hearted, while the Add-On brings peace.
My favorite Add-On is "...and that's okay."
You can also Add-on to the beginning of a thought, "I am thinking the thought__________." This will help you look at the thought rather than getting lost in the thought as though it were an inevitable fact.
3. Flipping: Take the thought and flip it to the opposite.
Thought: My husband does not care about my thoughts or feelings.
Flip #1: My husband DOES care about my thoughts and feelings.
Flip #2: I don't care about my husband's thoughts and feelings.
When we consider flip thoughts, we find evidence of the opposite. This experience opens us to the idea that the original belief is optional.
4. Ask "How would I like to think instead?" When we consider what we would like to think about a circumstance we give ourselves permission to consider other options:
If you would like to believe new things and want to see what working together looks like, set up a free mini session and I will give you your before and after.
Where we are in life proves what we are thinking. When we change our perspective, we can change our lives and our relationships.