I have a painting on my wall with the words of the old hymn, Bind my Wandering Heart to Thee.
It reminds me that I am utterly dependent on God and I don't want it to be any other way.
God intended for us to depend on him.
It is not that sort of sit back and I need someone to change my diaper sort of dependence.
And it's not the sort of dependence that leaves you blaming someone else for where your life is.
Often times our human tendencies have an element of truth in them, so we must be careful not to react by throwing the baby out with the bathwater.
We recognize the pitfalls of depending on other humans. We have coined the term "codependent" to label this pathology.
And yet the reality is we are created to be dependent. Dependence is part of our blueprint. It has just been misapplied to dependence on humans rather than God.
When we become utterly self-reliant, the intended impact is to feel empowered and responsible and free from blaming and disappointment.
Yet, when we make ourselves the solution to all our problems, we are still putting a finite fallible human on the throne of our life. We become our own god in a way.
The problem with this is, not only are we limited and finite, without a redeemer, we are prisoners of human sin and fallibility.
Christ came to redeem us and set us free from the power of sin in our life. The fallibility of the flesh does not define who we are.
As believers, our dependence is shifted on to one who really does have power over everything. This sovereign one is faithful and good. He is all that is love. He is our Creator, Redeemer and the Lover of Our Souls.
If we profess Christ, why would we not want to depend on him?
The Bible is full of stories of depending on God to do impossible things. Over and over again, we see lack and little being made into more than enough.
I love the stories of small armies defeating large ones. I am amazed when 5 loaves and 2 fish feed 5000. And who does not know the story of the young boy David whose faith was in the Lord when he defeated a large giant with a small stone?
God wants us to engage with Him. When we depend on Him, we don't sit back uninvolved. His reliant people are active in taking actions as an expression of their faith.
If you have a history of depending on others and are trying to break the destructive habit of this type of living, what if you didn't have to change this tendency about yourself?
What if you made the object of your dependence the God who is a sovereign over all? When you put Him on the throne of your life, rather than another human, including yourself?
What might be different for you? How might your marriage and life flourish?
If your heart is prone to wander, ask him to bind your heart to him. Its an amazing prayer to pray each day.
Where we are in life proves what we are thinking. When we change our perspective, we can change our lives and our relationships.