What if we all just loved what we had?
Whatever was before us.
However much that was.
Exactly as it is.
You could still want, but simultaneously, what if you celebrated what was?
When we want from a place of having, the wanting is totally different. We want because its interesting and fun, not because it will give us something we desperately need.
For me, when I think something should be different than it is, I am focused on lack.
When I want Rich to do something he doesn't do, I quit appreciating what he does do.
We all want new and different because we believe it will make us feel a certain way, giving us something we don't currently possess.
But what if that feeling was yours now and you weren't waiting for a "maybe someday" to get it?
Pregnant with my first child, finances were tight and we often times got creative.
Preparing for my baby, I imagined a glossy white dresser in his nursery. We got to work reinventing a current dresser that was mine previously and my dad's before that.
It was dinged and battered and needed a good coat of paint.
I envisioned it coated in enamel high gloss paint taking on a clean, sleek appeal.
Imagine my disappointment and surprise when the paint did not camouflage dings, nor did it slim the dressers chunky edges!
Obviously, I had not thought this little makeover all the way through.
Its humorous now to think that I thought somehow high gloss paint could make my shabby chubby dresser look sleek and chic.
Instead, it looked like an imposter trying to be something it wasn't. Like a leather skinned elephant wearing a wedding dress, it was totally awkward.
My friend then introduced me to the the style Shabby Chic. This style celebrated flaws, curves and battered edges, while at the same time it enjoyed a dress up party.
I released my vision of polished, perfect and pristine.
We got out sand paper, steel wool and a scraper and attacked the glossy piece of furniture to distress edges and surfaces.
I felt like my dresser's true identity was emerging with a hint of sophistication alongside down to earth.
Once I embraced its natural beauty and history, I discovered that I loved this humble dresser even more than I ever would have loved high glossy and flaw-less.
I did give my chunky and dinged-up friend some crystal knobs, but between gloss and shine and dings and dongs, she owned the corner of shabby chic.
Have you like me wanted something and almost missed what was standing right in front of you? What in your marriage or life are you trying to make into something it isn't?
What if you started celebrating what it is and loving what you had? If your actual life was someone else's life and you peered in, what would you want and appreciate about it?
Let's love what we have and give ourselves what we think we will get if we had what we think we needed.
There is ALWAYS someone who would LOVE to have your life. Until we find gratitude and appreciation for what is before us we will never truly value what comes our way.
Where we are in life proves what we are thinking. When we change our perspective, we can change our lives and our relationships.