You can do amazing things. Complete great feats. Follow the rules to the tee.
Yet without love it doesn't matter.
People stay in marriages because its the "right thing to do". And sometimes they are bitter, unkind, discontent and unhappy.
God always starts with our hearts. He wants to transform them. He starts there, not on the outside. Our interaction with the world must come from a place of love. The actions are less about the actions, and more about the place they come from.
Our works are a reflection of our faith which is rooted in love and ample supply. Doing works without love is nothing but a big racket.
If we stay in our marriage as though it were a hardship so that we may boast, but do not love, we gain nothing.
I Corinthians tells us what true love is:
Love is patient. Love is kind. Love is respectful.
Love rejoices in the truth.
It is not envious, nor proud. It is not self seeking nor angered easily. It keeps no record of wrongs.
Love always protects, trusts, hopes and perseveres.
When we operate from a place of obligation we feel dread, bitterness, resentment. In turn, we might do the right thing, but act like a sourpuss.
You are loved my sister. Amply. Prolifically. Abundantly.
The fruit you want to produce in your life is LOVE.
Remember the love that is available to you? In faith, grab hold of the truth of who you are and the abundance you have been given. See your man as the lovable person God made him. See yourself as lovable.
From this place, you will feel love. Love comes from a thought. Love-driven actions will produce a great harvest in your life.
Like Paul shackled by chains in prison (Philippians 4), you too can be content and rejoice in all situations because its not the situation that is making you disappointed. It is your thoughts about the situation.
Where we are in life proves what we are thinking. When we change our perspective, we can change our lives and our relationships.